Self Improvement: Rules and Politics for Side Chicks
Rules and politics for side chicks
The average woman would have every man on earth and every woman on earth for that matter believe that they have ever nor will they ever be a side chick. The stigma of having sloppy seconds to a woman is worse or equal to a bottom feeder; but the reality is every woman has been or will be a side chick at some point and time in their life, but you know what that’s ok. So with that being said I am here to give you the rules and regulations of your role as a side chick. Whether its knowingly or your just finding out when his wife/ girlfriend gives you a call while you two are on your couch watching your favorite show on DIRECTV. I will have you knowing your role as his go to number 2 in no time.
Rule 1. Establish your role from the beginning (ground rules)
Most of us guys operate under the “don’t ask don’t tell” system. As in if you don’t ask us if we got a girl or a wife we don’t tell you if we have a girl or a wife. But for the sake of this article let’s say he does tell you. As a woman in this position you have a decision to make. If you do decide to go down this often taken but not so talked about road, sit down and have a conversation about what YOU will accept and what you won’t because as quiet as kept the side chick role is about keeping you happy not him. I mean after all you are his dirty little secret. Now im not saying he won’t have his little rules for you but those will mostly be about not getting him caught up!
Rule 2. Remember you are THE SIDECHICK!!!
A lot of women make the mistake of forgetting the golden rule YOU ARE THE SIDE CHICK; no need to call him knowing the main chick is around or ask can you guys see each other knowing that he has family time, or make the mistake that most side chicks make of trying to get to know his kid(s). Let me explain a little known fact that most, if not all, women do not know, HE WILL NEVER LEAVE HIS GIRL FOR YOU. For some reason most side chicks think they have something the main chick doesn’t. This is actually the complete opposite yes he sneaks away to see you, yes he sleeps with you, and yes he’s going to say things to you that start with “she never” or “your better than her because” this is just something we say because its sounds good and mostly sounds good to you. The fact of the matter is men cheat to have sex and just because we have sex with another female doesn’t mean that we want to leave who we are with, have kids with, live with, and have a life with. If you want to successfully be a side check it’s in your best interest not to get emotionally involved.
Rule 3. It’s not a relationship
Regardless of the “I miss you text messages” the gifts, and the cloud he has you floating on when your together… ITS NOT A RELATIONSHIP we have already established he won’t leave the main chick for you, also do not expect lavish gifts nice dinners and trips. You can expect to spend quality time with him, you can expect to have his undivided attention and you can even expect for him to tell you all the sweet little things to make you seem like you are the only girl for him. If you get caught up and begin to think he means these things, you can end up in a very precarious situation that most men and women entitle “DRAMA”. Don’t get mad if he doesn’t call “right” back, don’t get mad if every time you see each other all he wants is sex, don’t be offended if he doesn’t ask you about your day, don’t get offended if all he has time for is a couple of hours to spend with you, you are not in a relationship you are in an arrangement and the only way to make this arrangement work best for everyone is realize early that you are the second option and it may not be the best position but it was your decision.
In the end ladies you deserve the very best you deserve to be somebodies main chick lol Im just playing you deserve to be somebodies only chick, but the reality is everyone cheats…EVERYONE. And if you have elected to be a side chick treat is as such don’t expect for him to fall in love or treat you better than the woman who is the mother of his kids or his wife. Treat it as two people who date and keep their options open. It is illogical to think that its ok to be faith to the man that’s essentially cheating on both of you. Your young (or not) have fun but don’t be stupid
- Orrin Odogg Carter
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